Kevin Hogan

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Is Stalking Love? Kevin Hogan

What is Love?

No easy answer there. Whatever it is, most people agree it’s desirable.

What is seduction?

Another tough question. Is it “OK” to be seduced? What about the act of seducing someone else? It sounds like it’s right on that border between good and bad. There’s a lot of tension in the word isn’t there?

Creepy behavior, stalking for example…seems like a bad thing. But what IS IT?

At first glance, most people would suggest stalking is not so good. It’s creepy. Just ask anyone.  Certainly stalking could end in a downright bad place.

But in reality didn’t you seduce & stalk your last mate? Or did they seduce & stalk you?

For better or worse, love is attachment. Stalking (at least in the mating sense) is the pursuit of a potential mate. Seduction is the intentional act of causing one to attract another.

There are a few fascinating things people like to talk about when they interview me. Body language, persuasion, attraction, sexuality and love.

Let’s start with love.

Most people mistake “love” for an emotion. They “think” that it is much like “fear” or “anger.” But of course, it’s nothing of the kind.

Love is a MOTIVATION, not an EMOTION.

Love in not an Emotion
There are (arguably) eight basic and fundamental emotions. They include:

  • Joy
  • Contentment
  • Anger
  • Fear
  • Surprise
  • Sadness
  • Contempt
  • Disgust

Love is nowhere to be found.

Pause and think about that for a second. Love, like “happiness,” has definitions that are all up for grabs.

Emotions are clear cut.

I feel “fear” and YOU KNOW what that means. I feel “sadness” and you KNOW what that means.

I say “love” or “happy” and you really don’t have a clue what I’m feeling…


Let’s come back here in a second.

Along side this line of thinking, let’s set up a parallel path to walk on here.

Today I want to share with you some recent research about stalking, seduction, and “love”…where they intersect and where they are all part of one story…and where they are different. This is not for the feint of heart!

Love Addiction
Finally our third parallel path….New research sheds light on nonverbal communication, including body language, that optimizes sending and interpreting and decoding messages that you may never have previously understood.

Love is far closer to an “addiction” than an emotion.

Don’t believe it?

If someone takes what you love away from you, how will you feel?


You’ll do whatever it takes to get that person or thing back.

“Love” begins to make sense when you shift what you currently think about “love”…what it has meant to you… and then to consider what the research shows… so you understand how it works, relates to sex, attraction, desire, and yes, seduction.

Continue with something I know you’ve experienced…

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