Q… I really appreciate the information that you send me. I have some questions about nonverbal communication between men and women. I have looked up different sites on whether women are better at sending and interpreting signs given by the opposite gender. I didn’t find any source that gave me a definite answer on this. I hope that i can get some help from you. And i would be very glad to get information from an expert on the topic that i am focusing my research paper on “Nonverbal communication between men and women” I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Answer: Sophia Loren read Jayne Mansfield’s body language in this famous photo. Mansfield of course was making her own impression for onlookers.
Perhaps my favorite body language photo of all time… And it’s true, women, in general, are better than men at reading and intentionally sending more accurate body language cues. They also tend to be better at Impression Management. Interpreting cues from others is a different story. There is no real difference in inborn skill levels on the decoding side. It is learned through the different modes of socialization.
Q.. I notice some interesting Email subject lines sometimes – and it leaves me to wonder the intention behind them. Using words in subject lines like: fail, slacker, loser, bum, … etc. seems like it is undoing the desired result. Have you ever talked about that because I am wondering how the brain interprets that – I know how mine is.
Answer: The goal of the subject line is to get the person to open the email. The marketer believes that these words (and may have evidence to show) cause people to open the email. I prefer to avoid most of those words, except “fail,” which is extremely important to success and achievement.
Let me know the results of any test you do. I’ll be interested!
Q… Can hypnosis help with stuttering?
Answer: I’ve seen it help with some subjects and I’ve also seen it to be impotent with others. Find the BEST (references are nice) and give it a try. The BEST probably lives an airplane flight away from you.
Q… I am currently reading your book, Through the Open Door, and am finding it really exciting. The way that you and Ms. LaBay describe the causes and effects of problems like low self-esteem, fear and procrastination resonates with me like no other self-improvement book I’ve ever read, and that gives me a lot of faith that your techniques for addressing them will work for me. I just had a couple of questions about how you recommend using these techniques.
First, with the Splice and Swish technique for procrastination, you mention that you did this 40 times in an hour. Is the goal to do it 40 times (which may take less than an hour), or to spend an hour doing it? It seems like it would take an extreme amount of discipline for someone without any self-hypnosis or meditation experience to focus on this one thought pattern for a whole hour. If the goal is to do it 40 times in one hour, would you, say, do it 10 times, take a break for five minutes, come back and do it 10 more times, etc? Or do you really have to stay focused on it for the whole hour?
Answer: No break. Just do it. Over and over again.
Q… My second question has to do with the recorded meditations in your book, Tinnitus: Turning the Volume Down. How often do you recommend using them in order for them to be effective? (several times a week, several times a day, just once or twice…)
I truly appreciate you taking the time to answer my questions so that I can get the most out of your book.
Answer: Use them before you go to sleep, as you are going to sleep. Nothing sinks in once you are sleeping but those minutes prior to sleep are highly suggestible moments in your day.
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