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A talented person doesn’t like the company or part of the company or a leader in the company for one reason or another. They carry resentment. It is embedded deeply and emotionally into the brain.
Maybe the thought was/is, “I can’t stand the way he treats me.”
Now, you have been inside of your brain for a long time.
Do you want to do good things for people who treat you poorly?
Most people do not and will not.
A person who feels they are treated poorly…someone who doesn’t feel they are taken seriously…given a chance to contribute…etc…causing resentment…is the birth place of self- and other-sabotage.
Research shows that people will suffer significant loss and pain themselves in order to punish others who they feel deserve to be punished.
That punishment might be done with conscious intention or not. And it has the same result either way. It stops the individual from succeeding and it damages the other person or the company. Typically the damage is not “permanent” as the punishment can’t be so great that it would cost the person their job (at least in most cases).
What happens is the individual will intentionally or not, block the organization or the person they are resentful toward from succeeding. To bring the organization completely down would be completely self sacrificial and rarely happens.
More common is the salesperson who will think, “Oh! I made two sales this week, that will get me through the rest of the month.”
The salesperson will think, “How many sales do I need to make to get by?”
The emotional resentment could be at home and yet the person takes it out on the job.
How?
What if husband thinks wife is spending too much or not pulling her share or “making him happy.” He takes it out at work by unplugging success and programming in mediocre results.
“She doesn’t deserve…” might be the unconscious or conscious thinking.
If the husband goes to work and excels, doubling sales and income then there is more money for the wife to spend. More positives for the wife in exchange for the same old negatives he is getting.
So what happens?
He works until…it is enough. Then he stops. He fails or fails to work. He might even like his boss, his job, his department…and wonders himself why he simply can’t “get ahead.”
The resentment is taken out at work in the form of self-sabotage.
The boss, of course, doesn’t see the internal conflict even if the husband does see it in himself…and most of the time the husband won’t see the resentment. The boss just can’t figure out how Johnson is constantly underperforming. He tries pep talks (carrots), threats (sticks), everything…and nothing works.
So what to do?
Ask the person: “Would you feel any anger, fear, worry, if you were to go out and develop new clients?”
Let the person talk. Then “peel away” the first layer of talk. (It usually is a smokescreen for the real feelings even deeper.)
“What else would you feel?”
As the person communicates, the more trust they feel from you the more likely they are to divulge the hidden secrets, whatever they are.
Once it’s all on the table, you can attempt to deal with the problem(s). I’ll talk about that next time.
Until it’s on the table, you will get the same results over and over and over and over.
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