90% Guarantee of Getting What You Want
You cannot stop the weather, or the occasional crazy person in life… but there is something you can do to virtually guarantee getting the results you want.
Because life gets in the way of your desired outcomes, intentions and goals, you MUST utilize a tracking technique to be certain your thoughts and behaviors are in line with those desired outcomes and intentions.
This means that if your goal is to write 3000 words in your book today, you will keep an hourly track of how many words you are writing. And of course you will write MORE than 3000 words BECAUSE TOMORROW, LIFE WILL HAPPEN.
I promise. Life happens. Black swans come in all shapes, sizes and forms and you must constantly buy yourself insurance.
Therefore, at 10:00 AM you note you have written 400 words. At 11:00 AM you write down that you are at 900 words. And each hour (or half hour) that goes by you TRACK.
For EVERYTHING that REALLY matters in life you TRACK IT.
If it does not matter, simply say you are well intended. (I can virtually guarantee that if you read the book, become inspired and do not take notes that you follow up on, you will fail at whatever you think is supposed to happen because of the feelings you got when you read the book.
The scientific research about self monitoring and self awareness is crystal. Depending on the outcome there are various forms of monitoring yourself. Taking notes is the simplest and most likely to trigger success in the long run.
As you reduce your tracking you will reduce your desired result.
If you are hoping to be a more congenial manager at the office, you MUST track each hour WHAT you did in the previous hour to be that more likeable leader.
If you are trying to improve a relationship at home, you MUST track what you did and what you are going to do, again, each hour is helpful, though at first most people need to track more often than hourly.
The very good news is that once self regulating behaviors become habitual they are very, very difficult to break. Eventually tracking comes down to a twice a day notation.
Here is what the sum of all research says:
Until the desired behavior is established, your success is as likely or unlikely as your self monitoring.
This is where friends and family can come in handy or destroy your desires.
If you are in the presence (in person or online) of people who are also utilizing increased self awareness and self monitoring (they are emotionally intelligent and want to self regulate more effectively) you can encourage each other in your various pursuits.
Meanwhile, if those closet to you in your network choose not to track their thoughts and behaviors (writing those 500 words this hour) and comparing them to what they wanted to do (writing say only 450 words in that hour), you will do your best of course but you will discover that your intentions and goals are very difficult to achieve without tracking.
What you see others doing, or read others doing on their Facebook page is more than a gentle trigger or prime to your own behavior. The direction those closest to you are going is the most likely direction you will also go.
Be smart. Be connected to people who have decided what they want, have a plan to get it, and are monitoring themselves hour by hour (at minimum) to know that they are on track.
This could be to complete projects, generate more income, have a better relationship. If you track it like other emotionally intelligent people, it will work. If you choose to rely on your best intentions, you might want a Plan B ready as you will likely need it.
Focused Friends and Your Desired Outcomes
Your desired outcomes are constantly influenced by the people you surround your Self with. When friends or partners have similar goals, both are raising children, both losing weight, they often actively facilitate each others positive or negative performance in relation to these goals.
This pursuit could be through active behaviors together, feeling closer to each other, or having a greater sense of understanding for the other person. This lessens conflict and reinforces pleasant interactions.
Partners with similar desired outcomes are also more likely to have similar interests, which is a predictor for happy relationships. However, when friends or partners have dissimilar goals, each party may serve as a barrier to the others achievement.
Partners who are less like each other tend to have goals that are not compatible, increasing the likelihood that ones desired outcomes will impede the others. When they do not have respect for each others goals, they may be less efficient both in their desired outcomes and in their relationship.
Dissimilar goals predict conflict and avoidance in relationships. Though friends or romantic partners may not have similar goals at first, they may develop similar goals later in a relationship. Religion, values, desire for children, and ambition are examples of potential conflicting goals. Keep this in mind when looking for or choosing a mate.
Already have one?
Be aware of the differences of where you want to go.
Instead of avoiding communication or confrontation about particular issues, talking with them about how you can make your desired outcomes more compatible with each other will typically work wonders.
But it is not all paradise in the we will make it together department.
When you believe someone close to you is trying to control you or push a goal onto you, you tend to rebel against their desires and pick a goal inconsistent with those expectations.
I’ve experienced this in many ways.
In retrospect, it is all easy to see. Unfortunately human nature is something that you and I can only modify in others!
How to Persuade Using Covert Images, Stories & Messages
Covert Subliminal Influence
with Kevin Hogan, Psy.D.
“LIVE” SEMINAR ON COVERT HYPNOSIS, SUBLIMINAL PERSUASION AND SUBTLE INFLUENCE”
6-DVD with complete Manual on CD
One “live” seminar with NOTHING edited out. Learn the secrets of covert hypnosis, subliminal persuasion (including HOW to make subliminal dvd’s!) and subtle forms of influence.
Technical Guru Mark Ryan assisted in the subliminal aspects of the course. More on this in a minute (I know…it’s so cool…)
This DVD program is contains demonstrations of nonverbal and verbal communication that you haven’t seen or experienced before.
You will learn how to tell a story with Covert Hypnosis.
This necessary skill set is what separates those who are good at subtle influence… and those that are truly masters. And I walk you through it, demo it and even have the class participate. You will be blown away. Promise.
Turn the DVD program off after just this DVD and you will have one heck of a return on your investment. (I promise, almost no one can tell a story well and it is stories that sell. Stories that market. Stories make money.)
- You’ll learn how to embed false memory in others in seconds.
- You’ll learn how to change memory.
- It’s subtle.
- It’s powerful.
Oh…and I’ll tell you why you want and need to know this…. 🙂
Next you’re going to find out the seemingly magical use of energy around you to create incredible comfort and trust or discomfort and fear. I would argue that it isn’t magic, that it’s science but no time for that. The skills are all transferable. You’ll see audience members interact with me and in minutes learn how to do this most important skill.
You’re going to find out how to shape beliefs with single words or images.
I’m going to show you how simply tearing a piece of paper can cause enormous pain inside of someone. And what you can learn from this!
You”ll find out the secrets that Mark Ryan and I use to create what may be the only commercially available subliminal DVD’s that work. We will both explain why and then….you’re going to find out why we are hesitating before releasing more.
- You are going to learn how to get from “no” to “yes.”
- You are going to watch me work.
- You are going to see the energy vibrate off of me and feel it enter your mind as you learn Covert Subliminal Influence.
- You will learn how to send covert verbal messages with far more power than you ever learned in NLP. (Yeah…really.)
*EVERYTHING* in this seminar has been scientifically tested.
No guess work. No BS.
No time wasters. It’s 100% proven technology.
And it’s 100% heart.
You will have fun and learn at the same time.
Unlike most programs you watch, I explain EVERYTHING I DO “LIVE”. Questions are taken and answered from the audience. It’s all here for you.
This program, newly released, comes on six DVD’s. It’s everything that those who attended got INCLUDING the manual which is rich in research and information on subliminal messaging.
6-DVDs plus Manual on CD (PDF format).
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