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15 years ago, I reported on an experiment I did in two cities with something called Speed Dating. Now of course everyone knows what it is. At the time we were the first and only people using speed dating in an experimental context.

Speed Dating is an interesting concept where you have 20 men and 20 women in a room. They each get a 6 minute date with each other. After each date they mark on a card whether they would like the other person to call them or not (for a bit longer date…in the future) If both people mark “”yes” we gave them that information at the end of the night.

That simple.

I had just finished writing  Irresistible Attraction with my seminar partner and every shred of research information we could find about men, women, attraction, and what happens (as opposed to what they SAY they are attracted to, or they way things SHOULD be)…well, it all pointed to the fact that what people say and believe they idealize has nothing to do with what people actually do in the real world.

Before I show you what research recently released shows, I’ll tell you what we found.

  1. Women didn’t need six minutes to know whether they wanted to date a man again. Most women decided (they said) in the first minute or two whether they would want to see a man again after that night.
  2. Men decided instantly, within the first few seconds.
  3. Women checked off “no” on about 80% of their cards.
  4. Men checked “yes” on about half of their cards.

None of this was surprising to us. All was as we hypothesized based upon our research.

Not one person said they needed more than six minutes to decide whether they would want another date. (not 1 in 80!!)

*Everyone knew.* Everyone. (OK, we hadn’t predicted that.)

Now, we hadn’t made up an elaborate post-interview process beyond that.

From observing body language, we also predicted whether they would say “yes” or “no” and although I don’t have the data here, we hit the vast majority of both men and women right on target.

Stereotypes Still Exist in Dating

While humans may pride themselves on being highly evolved, most still behave like the stereotypical Neanderthals when it comes to choosing a mate, according to research by Indiana University cognitive scientist Peter Todd.

In a new study, Todd and colleagues found that though individuals may claim otherwise, beauty is the key ingredient for men while women, the much choosier of the sexes, leverage their looks for security and commitment.

This formula has served humans throughout time, with the model of choosy females reflected in most mammals.

An Evolutionary Trade Off for Men and Women

“Evolutionary theories in psychology suggest that men and women should trade off different traits in each other, and when we look at the actual mate choices people make, this is what we find evidence for,” Todd said.

“Ancestral individuals who made their mate choices in this way — women trading off their attractiveness for higher quality men and men looking for any attractive women who will accept them — would have had an evolutionary advantage in greater numbers of successful offspring.”

Not exactly politically correct? Participants in Todd’s study might verbally agree, though their actions said something different.

The study used a speed-dating session in Germany to compare what people say they want in a mate with whom they actually choose.

The Date

Speed dating, an increasingly popular way for singles to meet, involves sessions in which men and women have numerous “mini dates” with up to 30 different people, each date lasting anywhere from three to five minutes. After every date, the men and women checked a box on a card noting whether they would like to see the other person again.

Todd and his colleagues describe such speed-dating events as a “microcosm where mate choices are made sequentially in a faster and more formalized fashion than in daily life.”

For Todd’s study, 46 adults in a speed-dating session were also asked to fill out a questionnaire beforehand assessing themselves and their ideal mate according to evolutionarily relevant traits, such as physical attractiveness, present and future financial status, health and parenting qualities.

Not surprisingly, Todd said, participants stated they wanted to find someone who was like themselves — a socially acceptable answer.

Results?

The Results

But once the sessions began, the men sought the more attractive women, and the women were drawn to material wealth and security, setting their standards according to how attractive they viewed themselves.

Furthermore, while men on average wanted to see every second woman again, the women wanted to meet only a third of the men again.

While the study’s results came as no surprise to Todd, the research usefulness of the speed-dating forum did. Todd and his colleagues are conducting several other speed-dating studies that could confirm the results.

“Speed dating lets us look at a large number of mate choice decisions collected in a short amount of time,” Todd said. “It only captures the initial stage of the extended process involved in long-term mate choice. But that initial expression of interest is crucial for launching everything else.”

Reference: “Different cognitive processes underlie human mate choices and mate preferences,” to be published the week of Sept. 4-7 in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.

Coauthors are Lars Penke, Department of Psychology, Humboldt University, Berlin, Germany; Barbara Fasolo, Operational Research Group, London School of Economics, London, U.K.; and Alison P. Lenton, Department of Psychology, University of Edinburgh, Edenburgh, Scotland, U.K. The study was supported by the Max Planck Society.

What Makes Them Decide?

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The Science of Influence, Part V
Volumes 49-60
Kevin Hogan

12 HOURS of new information and we have some fun along the way.

The one area I’ve left open for speculation in the first 48 CD’s, I’ve closed in Science of Influence 49-60.

Impulse Activation moves your hand from their pocket to the shelf holding the magazines, candy bars and nail clippers when you’re in line waiting to check out your stuff at the store.

Impulse Activation is what causes you to push “Buy Now” instead of surf away to a different web page.

Impulse Activation is what causes you to give a meaningful contribution to a charity even when you considered to not do so.

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In the last year there has been a LOT of research done in what persuades people…in what unspoken (covert) factors CAUSE people to spend more money, come back more often, buy more products and services.

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The Science of Influence 49-60: Triggering Compliance in the Buying Sequence is UTTERLY UNIQUE among all programs about persuasion and selling.

Because, for the first time, you will find out EXACTLY how to influence women. (Whether you are a man or a woman doesn’t matter. What matters is how you will use what you discover here!)

Women react and respond VERY DIFFERENTLY than men to influence attempts.

The chances are very good that your business is HEAVILY WEIGHTED with either 80% male or 80% female clients and customers.

I’m going to show you how to gain compliance from the women you’ve been missing out on.

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I will show you the PRECISE ATTITUDE that is REQUIRED to market effectively to women.

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