Instead, think about opportunities to tackle a challenge now. Pick one simple thing that would be challenging for you, and do it!
That may sound intimidating, but you will surprise yourself as long as you don’t let yourself go to bed until it is DONE.
Most often, we are capable of MUCH MORE than we give ourselves credit for. You won’t know until you actually experience it.
After you handle even one small challenge, you will feel your confidence growing and you’ll be eager to take on more.
I kid you not. Little actions in the right area, can trigger HUGE CHANGES.
In the Inner Circle this is one of the key strategies I use to cause people to move in the direction they need to move. Sometimes it’s subtle…sometimes not…it’s always effective.
Remember that changing your beliefs is a process but if you keep at it, it won’t be long before you start to notice a big change in how you view and experience life.
And like so many other things in life, the more you practice the strategy, the better you’ll get at it.
Stopping Self-Sabotaging Behaviors
I’ve written a lot about stopping self sabotage. Without question the best two programs, independent of the new Success Alogorithm course, to deal with this, are Lifestorms and The Millionaire Mind.
It’s NOT easy to stop self-sabotage because it can be elusive.
Hopefully by now you are feeling much clearer about what you really want, you’ve come up with a solid plan to achieve it, and you have been evaluating your beliefs in an effort to build your confidence.
Let’s look at some common problems that could derail your plans if you’re not mindful of them: self-sabotaging behaviors.
Have you ever done something that caused big problems for you and seemed to be in direct opposition to what you thought you wanted? Like consistently shown up late for work even though your boss warned that you were treading on thin ice? Or perhaps you kept feeling compelled to eat junk food even though you were trying to lose weight and get in shape?
Why do you do these things? You would think that setting a goal and creating a plan would be enough to get us where we want to go, right?
No, that’s ‘The Secret’. Works only in some kid’s stories.
The author of ‘The Secret’ tells us to avoid looking at fat people so we don’t get fat.
Oh….if it were that easy…even with the arrogance.
Fact: The nonconscious mind is on autopilot.
Fact: The nonconscious mind acts first and you figure out what it has done shortly thereafter, leaving your conscious mind to make up excuses for what “you” have done.
The nonconscious mind can and does work against both you and me except in fields and areas of expertise. Then the opposite is true.
Even if you consciously believe you want something, it doesn’t mean that you will pursue “it.”
The answer usually comes down to a feeling or emotion.
Fear….or guilt…or shame….or something close.
Take a look at these behaviors and ask yourself whether they have ever derailed your plans:
The programs mentioned above (Lifestorms and The Millionaire Mind) show you in great detail how self-sabotage happens, why and how specifically to unplug it.
Here’s the remedial version.
- You are on a diet to lose 50 pounds.
- You wake up in the morning ready for the day and your diet.
- You handle things brilliantly all day long!
- You even have a modest dinner.
- About two hours before bedtime you wear down and break down and begin to eat…eat…and eat…
- When you walk in the bedroom, you think, TOMORROW, I’m REALLY going to do this.
The remedial version?
Your mind ran out of gas and your feelings and emotions took over. Your “need”, the hunger in this case, eventually overtook conscious thought and shoved it aside.
And so it is with pretty much everything.
Want to sign a contract that will promise that you will do something that is good for yourself? First thing in the morning or last thing at night.
That’s when people want to change the most.
But our conscious mind is only so strong in contrast to the nonconscious mind.