Do know that because humans have differences as well as similarities? The person who asks a question could be perceived as rude or interrogated.
If you’re careful this perception will only occur with people who have been down that road before and become sensitive to questions in general or certain specific types of questions.
Legend Point: Your most common response to a question is to be fascinated.
Legend Point: Fascination is an invitation for the other person to “open up.”
But not all questions that are answered come with the response of simple fascination. Sometimes YOU are going to need a little mental agility.
You: “Where would you like to go to dinner?”
Them: “Anywhere you want.”
“Anywhere you want,” is a response that might mean they have little knowledge of a subject. It could also mean they don’t want to look stupid for saying something that could be perceived as preparing for being judged in some negative way. And of course it COULD mean they appreciate being asked and are encouraging you to get something for asking such a nice thing that they want you to be happy as well!
Fascination, “Ah…I see you are letting me be responsible for the success of the night.”
Fascination, “Ah…I see you are giving me a chance to show my worth in knowing food. I could be in trouble, but I think we’ll…”
Legend Point: When you ask someone a question you want to be fascinated, intrigued, curious, have a sense of wonder, even as you ask.
You want to create the ability for the other person to open the door to their mind or heart. Remember questions have caused them pain in the past and you must be different in how you ask, what you ask, how you respond and how little you react.
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