Genesis: Argument and hostility can grow quickly from boredom.
How could their boredom lead the way to making you hostile just minutes or seconds later?
How could their mental drifting bring on contempt and criticism?
People typically think about stopping the argument and they should. But if you don’t know the REAL cause of the person’s anger/frustration/disgust/irritation you won’t escape the argument.
It would have been really easy for me to have been in an argument last week.
I’m rarely bored.
How about you?
The trip to Europe from Minneapolis is typically “overnight.” That means you leave at 7 PM and get to your destination the next day at lunch.
Me? I’m bored. Too tired to work. Can’t sleep sitting up or even reclining. Personal quirk.
Bored is bad. Bored means I get irritable. Other things get me irritable. Property taxes, income taxes, government fees of almost any and every kind.
So the people you live with know you are irritable when the IRS letter comes.
They just don’t know that you are irritable when you are bored when seemingly nothing has been happening to cause frustration.
For you and me, boredom = frustration = irritable.
Conflict avoidance when traveling is a good first tactic.
They are bored as well. Avoid the conflict and you don’t push their “Crazy Buttons.”
Simple enough. It helps when you know the current situation WILL come to an end soon.
But what happens when you are dealing with someone who is pushing your buttons? Because when they start pushing your buttons it’s because they want a specific reaction from you.
They want to argue about something.
QUESTION: When you are dealing with the Argumentative Person(ality) how do you defuse the contempt, criticism and hostility they throw your way?
And, lastly, what if you are the Argumentative Person(ality)?
Everyone is “that person” sometimes.
We’ll talk about this today as well.
Have you ever been in a conversation where you found your mind drifting, dreaming, and struggling to stay focused? Do you remember how it felt to try and listen as someone droned on and on?
When we are faced with a poor communicator, there can be many reasons for that “missed connection”.
Often, there are words and phrases that push one of your buttons and you simply shut down. You stop “listening.”
Many times the person communicating is injecting so many negative words and ideas that we begin to feel down and heavy inside. It may just be that the person you are communicating with is boring you because the content of the communication is all about them, about stories you don’t care to listen to, and people you have never met!
The Argumentative Communicator
Do you enjoy playing the devil’s advocate? Are you constantly offering your opposing opinion when it is not asked for? Do you find yourself saying the word “but” often in your conversation with others?
You may be an argumentative “talker.” There is an effective way to take an opposing view of others opinions, beliefs and values, but it may destroy rapport. There is a way to give your opinion, but it may be received as unwanted advice. When you continue to oppose the comments of your listener, you run the risk of making them feel wrong, stupid, or uninformed.
Men and women seem to view communication differences in different ways. I often notice that men will say, “we had a debate” or “an intense conversation” and women will indicate that they had “a fight” or an “argument.”
The argumentative communicator, whether a man or a woman, should be aware that their communication efforts may immediately be perceived as a “fight” (the worst of the four above labels) regardless of the intent of the communicator.
I have a confession to make. I was in debate in high school and like a lot of sharp minds, I find a good debate stimulating and enlightening. Debate generally can be described as a structured discussion where individuals cite evidence about an issue in an attempt to persuade another person. Debate is an intellectual process where it is OK and preferable to be “right.” While I do enjoy debating very much, I do not enjoy arguing, which is emotionally based.
Arguing is where two or more people disagree about some subject, they raise their voices and make the discussion personal by bringing in the other person’s intentions.
What’s the difference then between debate and an argument?
In debate, we cite evidence with the intent to persuasively validate our point of view. It is very much like a chess game.
In arguments, things are different.
Here you cite evidence. You make claims about the negative intention of the other person’s behavior.
You become very emotional to the point where apologies will be in order. In an argument, the individual feels attacked.
When the attack is perceived as hostile, with intention to harm, I call this a “fight.”
Perceptions are tricky things.
One person may be simply debating or discussing a subject intellectually with no intent to harm.
The other person may perceive such communication as intending to harm them and they feel as if they are in a fight with a need to defend themselves instead of their point of view!
Sometimes it takes quite a long time for the person who is debating to finally figure out that the other person is upset and fighting.
There are no easy and clearly defined answers to rapidly determine whether someone thinks YOU are arguing, fighting, debating or discussing. Therefore it is vital to ask if it’s “OK to have this conversation” or at least smile. It’s also important to keep sarcasm out of discussions and debates if it isn’t obvious to the other person that you are having fun with them…instead of poking fun at them.
The argumentative communicator always needs to be right.
They want to defeat their opponent as if the dining room, the bedroom (a really stupid place to create negative anchors) or the boardroom is like a courtroom where only one person can “win.”
Whether at home, on the road, or in business, it’s critical to remember that it’s very easy for no one to win.
This doesn’t mean to stop disagreeing or intellectually pursuing what is good and right. It is very important to make sure those we have discussions with do not feel attacked.
There is an additional problem. You and I both know that we often take possession of our ideas as if they were our identity. If people’s ideas and verbalized thoughts are always experienced at the level of one’s identity, then all debate will become perceived as fighting or arguing. Therefore, when this pattern of communication erupts, it’s important to separate the idea from the person. This doesn’t stop discussion and debates from becoming arguments and fights but it does add clarity to the conversation.
The Magical Question…
If you are discussing something with someone and they perceive you as argumentative, I suggest you ask the person, “How can I present counter examples and other points of view to you so that you are not offended and your feelings are not hurt?” I thought of this wonderful question many times when it was simply too late to ask.
If you experience numerous people saying things like, “you just love to argue don’t you?” or “why do you always argue with me” or “I don’t want to fight with you,” then regardless of whether you are fighting with people or not, you need to reconsider your approach to communication so you are perceived as less abrasive.
Many times people who are intellectuals (whether they are “intellectual snobs” or not!) are considered argumentative simply because they have such a broad or deep knowledge about something that they are constantly the individual with superior knowledge about a subject.
This can lead others to feeling inferior. In these situations it can be useful for the person perecieved as superior and therefore the one who often puts others “on edge” or “on the defensive” to reduce the number of verbalizations in a communication and “tighten up their communication.” Make long speeches shorter. Ask more questions and have fewer total words spoken in dialogue.
Legend Point: Remember: Where one person seems to know everything, the other person is not necessary…or at least that’s how they feel.
Most brilliant people got that way because they were incredibly inquisitive. This too can become a problem. Asking questions of others is a great way to learn about how others feel, think and believe but believe it or not…there are lines that can be crossed here as well!
I’ve found myself asking questions when I used to argue like it was a hobby…questions that were sharp and cutting and critical by implication.
I stopped that habit but even ceasing intentional criticism or contempt is not always enough for how others FEEL about you. What they PERCEIVE you are TRYING TO SAY with your questions.
There are other problems that come from great inquisitors….notice how that word (it may not be a word by the way) is like the word inquisition? Yeah… me too. Lots of people FEEL like your questions are not questions but interrogation whether you intend that or not. Sometimes you’re just trying to figure out the person or their thinking process and all of a sudden you are called a “cop” or “police officer” or something similar.
Information Processors vs. Verbalizers
Some people process their “thoughts” through their “feelings.” You can ask them what they are thinking and they will say things like:
“I don’t know”
… and so on. These people aren’t planning major life events in their mind, they are simply in the moment…in their feelings; and because they process information differently from Verbalizing Thinkers, they often feel inadequate in a relationship or are pegged as poor communicators. In fact, they may not be good communicators, but they can improve their communication skills if others don’t put an enormous amount of pressure on them.
If you are a person who takes time to process external information and you don’t communicate well about information you have just received, a good strategy to appear more competent is to say things like:
“I need to consider what you’ve said…to ponder it.”
“Let me think about what you’ve said. I’d like to talk with you tomorrow about it, when I’ve taken the time it deserves.”
“My initial reaction is positive and I’d like to take some more time to consider it.”
What this does is allow the two parties to know that there is no problem with what was communicated by the verbalizing party and that they are indeed considering the information, not ignoring it; as Verbalizers often feel others are doing “to them.”
“Nonverbalizers” or “Information Processors” (people who use few words in the course of a day or a conversation) often become angry when they are asked to express more than they already have said. This leads them to argue from their feeling base. You would hear things like:
“Why do you always make me feel bad.”
“You don’t respect my feelings.”
..they might raise their voice and repeat the same sets of feelings or thoughts over and over; and they are now arguing.
Instead, the “Nonverbalizer” can share information like this:
“I’m starting to get upset but it’s because I’m not able to put my feelings into words yet. I’m not upset with you and I don’t want to be, so let me ponder this and let’s talk again tomorrow about it.”
Meanwhile, the “Verbalizer” (people who share lots of information…almost streams of information in communication) get upset and angry when others don’t respond in like kind. Someone who communicates 50 out of 60 minutes will feel the other person is “holding back” or “covering up” or that they just don’t care. These things upset the “Verbalizer” and once upset, as with all communication about to go wrong…emotions will get the best of the Verbalizer and communication will deteriorate rapidly. Because the Verbalizer is able to deliver words in large volume and speed, the Verbalizer also is more likely to be deemed argumentative when he/she gets upset. Her voice will raise and become angry.
The Verbalizer needs to share their feelings now.
“I’m starting to become angry because I feel as if you are not sharing with me what I’m asking you for. Am I reading you right?”
It’s very important that the Nonverbalizer doesn’t take this communication as “blaming” because the Nonverbalizer is, by definition, someone who doesn’t communicate as much and certainly not as quickly as a Verbalizer.
What can you do if you are dealing with an argumentative communicator?
- Tell the person you don’t enjoy arguing, but that you will discuss options and ideas.
- Tell the person you respect their point of view, but disagree.
- If necessary, tell the person that this subject is something you don’t wish to continue discussing because it is personal or volatile. (This is OK for business, of course, but not going to do the trick in long-term relationships.)
- Speak your point of view clearly and discuss what it would take for you to re-evaluate your point of view.
- Ask the person, “Is being right more important than my feelings?” (In other words, what is at stake? Safety? Life/Death? Some long-term issue? or Is it about whether you squeeze the toothpaste from the middle or end….)
- Suggest the person frame their comments in a more gentle fashion. “I know you aren’t saying that to attack me, it just hurts when you say it that way.”
- “Instead of yelling, allow yourself to speak calmly and then I’ll be able to listen to you better.”
- “If you stop calling me names when we talk, I’d be a lot less defensive. Deal?”
What can you do if you are an argumentative communicator?
- Ask more questions.
- Be interested in how the other people in your life came to believe and think what they think.
- Be aware that not everyone perceives discussion, debate, arguing and fighting in the same way. Find out what those important to you believe about each of these things.
- Ask the important people in your life specifically how you can communicate with them to help them know you don’t want to argue, but discuss.
- Determine why you need to be “right” or make someone else “wrong” in heated communications.
- Always think of your intention. Is your intention gentle? Speak more quietly. People associate quieter tones with gentler intentions.
- Show people you care in ways other than verbally so they know you care when you do argue.
- If you find yourself getting into a heated discussion, ask the other person if they feel you are arguing or discussing. Ask what the difference would be for them.
- Ask your friend/associate/partner how you can communicate without giving the appearance of arguing.
- Be certain that you make clear your intention so it is not misunderstood!
Already you have come a long way toward communicating more efficiently, effectively, and gently!
Lifestorms: Erasing the 12 Obstacles to Achievement. Overcoming the Paradox of Love, Power, Money and Happiness
Why life so often brings you exactly what you don’t want…and how self sabotage hides around every corner. Some people have guessed at the seemingly bizarre nature of self sabotage. Guess no more. Self sabotage is very real in everyone’s life, completely devastating and 100% resolvable.
You’ve probably noticed that…
- The more you argue for your point of view, the less you are heard.
- That which you fear the most today are often best for you in the long run.
- The more you need money, the harder it is to acquire.
- The more you need that person the more they move away from you.
- The more open you are about your vulnerability the more invulnerable you become.
- The more you protest, the more you get what you protestagainst.
What you may not know is that we need at least six fundamental needs met to succeed in every aspect of life.
- Basic Safety
- Connection to Others
- Self Esteem
- Self Expression
- Realistic Limits
If any of the six are not being met beginning at any point early in life, negative life patterns develop that soon shift from “clay” to “stone,” in the human mind. These negative life patterns actually helped us cope early in life with the areas of life when we didn’t have our fundamental human needs met…Later they become the core of self sabotage in every aspect of life…stopping us from getting what we want and literally making everything we don’t want…happen.
Over the course of your life you have noticed some recurring patterns and themes. Just as the money finally appears, something breaks and you have to have it repaired. Just as you are becoming happy, something big goes wrong. Just as you are getting on track, you get derailed. Just as you get your promotion, you get laid off. You find the girl or guy of your dreams and then she slips away. The worst? You have the break of your life sitting in your lap and you blow the sale, the interview, the meeting. The chance of a lifetime (you think) and a lifestorm hits and it is all gone because of one or two wrong words at a critical moment or even an interrupting phone call. It’s gone. The girl, the money, the power, the job, the career, the happiness.
You’ve wanted to get your life on track and on purpose for so long. You’ve set your goals and have come up short. You learn the techniques and tools of communication and even influence but still it always seems to happen. You try and make all the changes that could ever be made in a lifetime and then…BOOM! Another lifestorm.
What causes all of this? Does God have some kind of perverted sense of humor that puts the candy in your hand until it comes to your mouth and then he makes it vanish?
No, not at all.
12 Specific Patterns
There are 12 specific life patterns that cause virtually all of these events to happen. 12 very predictable negative life paths that you can and will repeat and will repeat over and over until you break the pattern. Once you break the pattern and construct a new pattern in place of the old, you literally change your life (or that of your clients). The fewest number of negative life patterns I’ve seen anyone have are four. The most 11.
Could it be true that life is both this “complex and yet simple?” That if you just change a few patterns that everything will be OK?
Life is never easy. But the negative life patterns are impossible to overcome… yes impossible… without stopping the lifestorms that result from the 12 negative life patterns and then replacing them with specific new patterns. Every now and then someone makes something happen by accident. They know what these negative recurring patterns are and figure out a solution without having had the manual to do so. And it’s been through observing the people who figured it out that the everyone else can stop the lifestorms.
How Does it all Begin?
What are these lifestorms and how did they get here? How do they emerge from the patterns? Why do they rip your future away from us just as you are ready to make a quantum leap into your the future? How do you stop the madness and turn it all around?
Imagine that you are a child. Age 5. Your Mom and Dad divorce. Your father leaves. Forever. Your grandfather tries to take your father’s place and fill in “the gaps.” Shortly thereafter he dies. Your mother continues to work two jobs to support you, your brothers and your sisters. Just as you begin to like them… babysitters come and go over the next couple of years. Finally you reach adolescence and you have your first love.
She/he is perfect for you. She likes you. You hold on tight. You call them all the time. Several times per day. Everyone else that you ever loved has come and gone or just not been there. You’ve basically been on your own with no one stable in your life and have learned how tough life is by yourself. You’re going to make sure that this person doesn’t leave. But they do. They got constricted. They didn’t feel loved. They felt smothered. They sought advice from others and eventually followed it. You were that kind of person who didn’t trust others they told the one you loved. (Note: Many people want to be called all the time and have an extreme amount of attention, however most people who have this life pattern do not gravitate to those people.)
Finally, “not being able to breathe,” they leave you. You are crushed. Again someone has abandoned you. Everyone leaves. Parents, grandparents, babysitters…and now the love of your life. You have the life pattern of abandonment cut with a chisel into the stone of your mind. This pattern will repeat itself over and over again until you recognize it, break it and reshape a new pattern into your mind. Your mind knows no other way to act or how to deal with the feelings inside. Relationship after relationship is destined to go up in smoke until this abandonment pattern is resolved and repaired and remolded.
Break the Chains
And, this is not the only one of the 12 patterns that leads to relationship troubles. In fact, some patterns lead to chaos in relationships, jobs, the pursuit of happiness and all aspects of life. Without correcting these 12 patterns little else will help you break the chains that keep you from having the love you deserve.
In the case of the abandonment pattern, which you may or may not experience, you find that it also causes specific behaviors in the area of money. For example, there are two common patterns with money that stem from abandonment. The first is the workaholic who saves every penny possible so that no matter who leaves or what happens in life there will always be something to ride out the next lifestorm. The second is that the person simply repeats the pattern with money and spends themselves to bankruptcy on things that can’t possibly help their future. They buy more car than they need. They buy a house they can’t afford. They buy toys that do nothing but cost more money to maintain.
The Patterns are Predictable
Like the other 11 patterns, the pattern of abandonment has a plotted course that is predictable in all facets of life. It is etched in stone and it won’t change until it is sandblasted away. No amount of positive thinking will erase it. It will take far more than simple affirmations or a couple of visualizations. It takes a master plan that, while not difficult to implement, takes some time to reset itself after sandblasting away the old patterns.
Remember when you said something like, “My parents did that to me and I will never do that to anyone.” That’s one of the three ways you react/respond to negative life patterns. You polarize consciously or unconsciously from the things that were “done to you.” This could be a positive reaction but it probably isn’t optimal. Repeating the pattern of your parents/elders/caretakers is another common reaction/response, but again, it probably isn’t optimal. On the continuum of possible behaviors there is usually a point in the middle that is where you really will be able to overcome the negative patterns and reset new successful patterns that will stop self sabotage.
Perhaps you know someone who displays the characteristics of the abandonment life pattern. Perhaps it is you. Recognition of the pattern is the first step toward eliminating self sabotage and staying out of lifestorms. The next step is to identify how you would like to feel and behave instead of your current feelings and behaviors.
If you are feeling a paralyzing fear of abandonment…the feeling that this person too will leave you, what do you want them to feel and what do you want to feel? Both parts are important. You certainly don’t want them to feel smothered. You don’t want them to feel mistrusted as that mistrust will usually move the person to the behavior you mistrust them of. You want to feel secure and you want to behave in such a way that does not make yourself appear to not trust the one you care about. All of these pictures are the beginning of setting the new pattern. You must determine what you want to feel and how you want to behave. You want to determine what message you want to send the one you care about.
In the case of dealing with money with this life pattern, the same process is critical. What do you want to feel about money? What do you want to do with your money? Do you want to buy $5,000 toys and expensive cars or do you want to invest in your self and your future through education and investment? How will you benefit if you do these things by choice instead of repeating the self sabotaging behaviors of the past? How do you want to feel about money? What thoughts do you want to think about money?
Isolate the Trigger
Once the pattern has been identified and you recognize how you feel and what you think while you are “in the pattern” you then want to isolate the trigger. In the future you want this trigger to trigger the adaptive life pattern that you are going to construct in its place. You will need to do quite a bit of mental imagery and visualization along with triggering the new pattern. You will want to vividly experience the new pattern and the new thoughts and feelings of the new pattern.
You also will then need to cultivate a set of specific actions that will physically move you forward in the new life pattern. At the end of the day you will record your feelings, thoughts and actions that you had in response to the triggers that you experienced that day. Usually within 45 days you can have mostly eradicated the old self sabotaging behaviors and have installed the new patterns that move you in the direction of your goals, your dreams.
Of course there are 11 other life patterns in addition to that of abandonment. There are patterns that include a general mistrust of others, patterns that create behaviors where you put yourself second to everyone else. Other patterns emerge where you might believe you are entitled to things instead of deserving of them. All of these are examples of patterns that give birth to self-sabotage and are roadblocks that keep virtually everyone from achieving their dreams.
To discover which of the 12 patterns you have been the victim of and how to eliminate self sabotage in your life (or those of your clients) you can pick up the CD program and workbook, Lifestorms: Eliminating the 12 Patterns of Self Sabotage: Installing the Life Patterns that Overcome the Paradox of Love, Money and Happiness.
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Lifestorms: The Patterns of Self-Sabotage
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