Self discipline is one of the skills of success that has to be wired in the brain at the unconscious level. No one is born with self discipline. No one.
When people ask “what is the secret to success?” there are definitely a few different correct answers. Let’s look at a few…then dig in where only angels go…
Having an idea factory. Storing and nurturing ideas that will bring increased wealth or happiness. Tough to be successful doing the same thing today that you did yetserday, unless you are Tiger Woods or Barry Bonds. I’m not.
Having specific goals. Goals give us the direction we need in life. They help us generate a “map” that we will need to get to those goals. And by the way, if you think about a map, it’s a lot more than a starting point and a destination. That means you need a lot of information between the two points…read that as short and medium term goals…and alternate routes in case of road construction!
Self-discipline. Ahhhhhhhh….Here is the rub…Self-discipline is tough. To actually do the right thing every hour of every day of every week, of every year. It seems like so much work…and it is…at first…until you master self-discipline and it becomes as habitual as taking your daily walk, brushing your teeth or eating dinner every day. Self-discipline can be installed into your brain’s operating system but expect no Genie from the lamp to help you on this one. If you don’t wire it in, it will never get there by accident. Never.
With self-discipline, everything in life is easier. Without it, life drifts down the river until it falls off the water fall. Here are some examples to really ponder.
There are two and only two ways that you can install self discipline into your mind.
1) You can perform the same activities you need replicated every day for 3-4 weeks at which time the activity will be burned into the neurology of the brain.
2) You can utilize self hypnosis every day for 3-4 weeks until the activity is burned into the neurology of your brain.
What would happen if you ate 300 calories less than your daily norm, every day for one year? (300 calories is 3 or 4 pieces of bread or three cookies)
You would lose about 20-35 pounds in that year. Even if you have a hard time losing weight, you would lose 20 pounds. It’s an incredibly small amount of food to leave at the grocery store but it adds up to three gallons of milk in weight after one year. Three gallons you’ve been lugging around for a long, long time.
I want you to subtract your age from 100.
Is that number roughly equal to the percentage of money you have carefully invested in the stock market and/or real estate and/or your own business? I’m not giving you investment advice here, you already know what is going to happen. You’re going to come to the point when you retire or get laid off and you will be out of money faster than you can blink an eye. (Note: Investing is not as easy as this and it takes self-discipline to learn to know when to be in or out of the market…more on that later as well.) If you have $35,000 in your retirement account that should be enough to get you by for one year if you become disabled or retired. How many years do you plan on living beyond disability or retirement? Multiply that by $35,000 and you know roughly how much you need to have to survive.
All of these vital areas of life are made fun… or are experienced as incredibly painful by the habit of self-discipline or the lack of it.
I can’t give you a lifetime dose of self-discipline today. It’s like taking vitamins. The half life of self-discipline is very short. Usually 12 hours. Then, at the end of the day you break down and eat those 500 calories, buy the new car, or take that trip that empties your savings. It takes a few weeks of intentional programming to make it all happen. And yes it is worth it.
Self-discipline is the best investment there is. I have had a few rules of thumb when it comes to/ and has come to money and life.
- I will not die of diabetes or anything like it. (avoid obesity)
- I believe in having a BIG rainy day fund. Because it rains a lot in life. If I got hurt for six months and couldn’t work, would it matter financially?
- Every day that I’m home I talk with my kids. Why? Because they are the most important long term investment on the planet. That love only grows over time.
- I believe in having 100% integrity. If it’s going to hurt someone or if it doesn’t represent who I am as a person, I simply don’t do it.
Each week in Coffee with Kevin Hogan, I keep in touch with thousands of people all over the world. Make sure you keep in touch with the people that are in your world. That takes self-discipline as well.
So does the daily walk you take every day.
OK. Now, we’ve talked about it.
You probably feel a bit anxious inside.
….you are on the right track!
You won’t actually DO anything that is in your best interest without massive doses of self-discipline.
The Three Disciplines: Personal Mastery, Charisma, Self-Discipline with Kevin Hogan, Psy.D.
Discipline: “training, activity or regimen that develops or improves a skill”.
There are many levels of excellence in life. Personal Mastery is a discipline that is developed over time and with experience; and with the help of the skill of Self-Discipline. The two work together to bring you to a level of excellence. Charisma and personal magnetism allow you to interact with others at a level of excellence and influential elegance that makes you the “go-to” person, the expert, the one in demand. For the first time, the Three Disciplines are offered as a package. 2 high quality digital audio CDs are dedicated to each area, for a total of 6 CDs plus a complete manual to accompany you on your journey.