How do you fix things in advance so that there is no negativity and perhaps engender a synergistic atmosphere?
Early on in taking on projects, it’s important to be all “set” with both people understanding what their perceived life is supposed to be/become. It’s important to talk about how you will evolve together or as a group.
This is not the same as a goal. This doesn’t have anything to do with losing 20 pounds or earning more money in a business.
This is about Identity. It is who you perceive yourself and the other person/people to be and what you expect them to be doing and experiencing in life. That’s what you want to get on the same page about.
You want to talk about how people will react during your successes and setbacks, of which you will experience both when running your own show.
Everyone has “goals” and expectations for OTHER people.
Everyone has expectations on what other people should be doing and thinking, believing and acting.
You don’t want to have a conversation that says, “Yes I want to be wealthy, healthy and wise”.
You want a conversation that says, “I see you as doing and being X. I see you has helping me do Y and Z with me helping you X. It’s important to me that you are happy with what you want to do.”
You want to see if each person’s picture of their expectations is able to match up after talking about the current life situation.
You also want to talk about what is going to happen to that picture when someone changes the picture again!
Getting people to actively help each other with each others roles, goals, projects, expectations and identities will create a synergistic and dynamic team.
You can make it happen if you get at it early as two people, or as a group evolving together. If it’s you off on your own, you might get the support you are looking for, but it will be more difficult. Talk about THAT as well.
Advance communication can be a cheap insurance policy for your success.