People set all kinds of goals, and that can be a very good thing, but it isn’t the end all, be all.
In fact, goals do matter but so do polarity outcomes.
Polarity? Ever know someone who only responds to reverse psychology?
“It’s a nice day today.”
Yields the response…
“I find it kinda cold.”
“The Cubs played pretty well yesterday.”
Yields the response…
“Tthey lost and the pitching was terrible…”
In fact I would argue that polarity outcomes matter just as much or more than goals in what you get in life.
Now this is a 100% fundamentally different point of view from “The Secret” mentality.
“The Secret” basically says you think of the home you want to buy. You get a good feeling about it and feel grateful for it.
What “The Secreteers” forget to put in the equation is the part about making the mortgage payments for 30 years and not just the first two; ending up in foreclosure.
In fact, I guess you could argue that “The Secreteers” are right. You can have pretty much anything you want for a short a year or two if you are willing to sacrifice your children’s lives in the future.
What You Think You Want
A woman thinks she wants a good looking guy who is strong and has a good job. She visualizes, feels good and is grateful.
She runs into him at the store. They date. They marry.
Guy turns out to be a criminal, abuser and a drunk.
How could it possibly have gone wrong?
She got exactly what she wanted.
She just forgot to go through what she didn’t want.
What people want allows for a very wide set of parameters on experience. It’s really fairly easy to get what you want.
What’s more difficult is to avoid what you don’t want.
In this case our friend didn’t give what she didn’t want….any thought.
(And of course had she thought those thoughts….well, she would have attracted a criminal, drunk abuser…according to “The Secreteers” at least…oh WAIT…that’s what she got. HEY…)
Last week “The Fed,” “injected” $200 billion into the U.S. economy.
Except that isn’t true.
The taxpayers of 2019 were *forced* to loan $200 billion to the U.S. economy. My kids. Your kids. And no one stopped by over here and asked if they wouldn’t mind another $1000 coming out of their college fund or give up their health insurance for a year to pay for the mistakes of people who think as “The Secret” teaches in 2008. Maybe it’s just me. I have big issues about being responsible and not hurting kids.
Remember when you read, “inject,” definition is “my kids/your kids loan…”
One woman was interviewed after reading “The Secret” : “I’m going to have my kitchen remodeled.”
“How are you going to pay for it?”
“I don’t know I’m just going to trust the universe.”
I don’t know about you but the universe has a pretty good history of total unreliability.
The New England Patriots were positive they were going to beat the New York Giants in the Super Bowl. They had won 18 straight games. They couldn’t lose.
Until they lost.
KEYPOINT: If you only think about, and focus on what you want, you are going to go broke, go into foreclosure, and maybe lose your job, your life and all that you hold dear.
Two of the Stupidest Comments Ever Uttered
“If you see people who are overweight, do not observe them, but immediately switch your mind to you, in your perfect body and feel it.” The Secret Author, Rhonda Byrne
“If we are in fear, if we are feeling in our lives that we are victims and feeling powerless, then we are on a frequency attracting those things to us…” The SecretAuthor, Rhonda Byrne
These are two of the stupidest statements ever uttered on this planet.
Replace that word overweight with paralyzed, homeless, soldiers who give their lives in war, the impoverished.
You get the idea.
Observing What You Don’t Want
The fact is that observing things you don’t want can be POWERFUL MOTIVATION and DRIVE to accomplish what you can.
The problem, of course, is not everyone on this planet is in a position to accomplish what they wish.
The United States is still a pretty free country. Obviously not as “free” as when I was a kid. But generally speaking, if you are reading this today you probably live in a country where you can build a life that you want to have and get out of the life you don’t want.
Of course, there are limitations of health and mental health as well, that feed into failure or accomplishment.
So let’s imagine you live in a country where you are free to do as you like, at least for the most part, and that you are relatively healthy. (If you have a computer and are able to read this, you are probably in pretty good condition barring severe Epilepsy, C.P., Muscular Dystrophy and the like.)
And by the way, EXCEPTIONS MATTER.
When people don’t see exceptions to their overarching life principles, they do far more damage on this planet than those who live in fantasy land, financing homes that they can’t afford to live in.
And as we’ve seen, doubling the foreclosures from 1% to 2% has taken down an economy in the U.S. and it’s going to do the same in the U.K. and some other countries as well.
How has it hurt millions more waiting in the wings to “feel” their own pain?
- They bought a house for $300,000.
- Today it is worth $270,000.
- They lose their job or are forced into moving because of divorce or any other reason.
Now, before we get to the realtor’s necessary and deserved fee for selling the house (perhaps $15,000), how many people do you know that can have a $300,000 loan, a year later it’s worth $270,000 and have to pay off the $30,000 difference…and then add in real estate fees, moving expenses, etc. so let’s just say $50,000 total…and actually be able to *do* that.
I don’t know a lot of people who can take that hit.
That’s what happens when foreclosures go from 1% to 2% because those houses go on the market and force the prices of other houses down.
And of course, not as many people can afford to move because they will be in the hole. (They will have to rob their 401 k to pay off the $50,000, money that will never be repaid to their future, and the average amount of money in a 401 k is right around…..$50,000.)
All it takes is a cultural mental disorder like “The Secret” to spin society into disaster.
Consider Disaster Scenarios
Oh don’t get me wrong, people have been screwing up their own and others’ lives with this kind of stuff for a long time. It’s just never been as culturally prevalent and disastrous as it is in 2008.
The time to think about the fact that houses can go down in value, just like automobiles (a notion that never strikes people’s imagination) is BEFORE the person buys the house.
The time to wonder about what happens if the person loses their job and how that impacts their children or themselves is BEFORE they buy the house.
The time to think about ALL THE DISASTER SCENARIOS is BEFORE THE HURRICANE HITS, not after it has already flattened New Orleans like a postage stamp.
…or of course you can use “The Secret” and “feel” good until the hurricane crushes your life.
It never ceases to amaze me how people can look at their children and then be OK with a $200,000,000 debt attached to those children.
Just like people are beginning to pay the price of the their own stupidity today, innocent kids will pay the most unbelievable price ever seen on this planet in the next 5-20 years.
Your kids and mine currently owe 9 TRILLION dollars. I’ll spare you the math and simply tell you that they will be paying 70% and 80% in taxes in their mid life and of course you and I will either be dead or living with the kids and the neighbors and I’m not kidding, and I’m understating the case.
The time to think about DISASTER SCENARIOs that WILL happen is before they happen.
…fear is a natural response to danger.
It is often healthy.
And in this case people should imagine what is going to happen, get a bad feeling about it and be grateful they are scared to death because they have time to get out before the hurricane hits.
The very few people who are preparing for the next disaster (you didn’t actually “see” the one that took place last week, but one of the biggest money houses in the world, Bear Stearns, bit the dust and was only kept on life support by the government and a savvy buyer, Morgan.)
….and your kids are obligated by law to pay back the mistakes of Bear Stearns and the government.
What you want in life is an important thing to know.
What you don’t want in life is a REALLY IMPORTANT THING TO KNOW.
As soon as you know what you don’t want and have a healthy, “rational fear” of those things, then you can prepare for those scenarios.
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