Ask Kevin Hogan Anything…Your name will not appear unless you request it. The world has enough privacy problems. Feel free to ask for your name to be included if you wish.
Now let’s get to it.
– Kev, I watched your Christmas Video where you mention The Charismatic Communication Course for Video and Web. When does it begin? How long is it. Does it carry over to all types of online meetings and events, and what about in person? Certainly that must have changed in the last year. You are famous for monster courses and if I don’t get better at my online work I’m going to lose my job.
And yes you are right, everything HAS changed in communication both outside and inside the “office” “virtual office” your home, dating… And we leave no stone unturned.
– Dr. Hogan, in the course of the month I have about 10 days when I am very depressed. Sometimes I don’t know if it’s my husband, my children, my parent I’m caregiver for. The problem is this and that I often take out my negative feelings on people I’m not upset with.
This helps a relationship and eradicates all the feelings that are manifesting… and that ALONE will help you feel better. Drop me a note in 30 days. Seeing a therapist sometimes is helpful. Therapists are not easy to screen for. Some are great. Some are terrible.
– Kev, …how do I deal with being judged. I watched your criticism video on You Tube but it’s not the same issue. People are judging me and saying nothing. They just give me looks, look away. It’s weird because there are only a few of us at the office as everyone else is telecommuting. I’m feeling really on edge like something bad is about to happen. What do I do?
Assuming you are being judged means that you can step up your game to your BEST EFFORT every single day. That is the message of the You Tube video. You aren’t there competing with a bunch of idiots in the office. You are competing with your Self. Their opinion of you DOES impact you. Obviously. But more important is YOUR OPINION of your work, your attitude. Have an honest way to assess your Self and how you are doing. After a month of this, talk to the boss and ask for his input. Tell him to hold back nothing. You want to contribute as much or more than anyone. You don’t want to misread ANYONE and you do want help. You are not whining. You are not complaining or blaming. You are simply asking for help to be the best you can be at the office. Someone will always be better or worse. But few really seek out answers to questions like these.
– Kev, …how do I deal with psychological bullies. Specifically I’m talking about people who belittle everything I do. Nothing I do is good enough. They talk right past me to another person behind me without including me in conversations. I’m at a loss.
A lot of people will think you have little or no value because of your party, religion, what school you went to, physical stature, speaking pattern, you name it. FEEL FREE to pull someone aside, “Hey John, I need five minutes. Can we talk?” If he says no on a few different occasions, he’s a jerk. If he listens say, “I feel really crappy when I’m around you. Please understand I want to understand what our relationship is and if it can be more effective for the office. My sense is that I am largely ignored. This could be just a feeling I get or it could be real. What do you think?”
Listen! Once again you’ll find out if you are dealing with a person with rational reasoning or if you are talking with a bully. Then come back here and follow up.
– Kev, …I’ve read you for years and I know you hate New Years Resolutions and I know all the reasons they aren’t going to work. But today is January 1, I’m thinking about the things that need to change in my life. I need to get out of my job, I need to start that Coffee Table Business you’ve spoken about forever. I need to get it together. I’m 47 but I feel like a teenager and I don’t mean in the fun way. Please help.
Treat today, January 4, like you would any other day of the week. I’m going to skip the resolutions discussion. Everyone should have the program Acquisition and Millionaire Mind from the store.kevinhogan.com But if you don’t then you can consider having an Inner Circle type relationship. (We’re only doing Gold right now until covid is over.) Finally get clear and some things you’d like to do, would be interested in doing, would be fascinating. If you get serious, drop me a note. We might be able to work out even one or two blocks of time to get you moving in the right direction.
– Dr. Hogan, …I have tinnitus and it is pretty bad. I don’t know who to turn to, everyone says nothing can be done.
Front page of kevinhogan.com click on tinnitus. They are wrong and they usually are. Most people can go from a lot of noise to quiet or silent with the right protocol.
– Kev, …. In your New Years Video (good video by the way, thanks for making it) you don’t really offer a way to fight the madness in Washington. It was almost like you didn’t want to talk about it. This is a very important week in American History and I think we should talk about it, at least to explain it to our kids what is happening. Thanks!
The election is over. Covid is not. It’s time to recognize that covid will NOT be over for quite some time and that the impact is dramatic. It’s time to let go of the politics aspect, skip the social media garbage and get to work on projects that will take care of you and your family. FAMILY FIRST. Once they are taken care of long run go back to social media and debate with people.
– Kev… I’ve missed a few issues of Coffee. Can you resubscribe me?
We don’t subscribe anyone. You need to go to the front page of the website and subscribe there.
– Kevin… I saw the sales letter for The Charismatic Communication Course last week but I didn’t see a link to register. Can you help me out? Anything I need to do to make sure I get in? You do mention that it’s a “beta course” whatever that means and that you might not let a lot of people take the course. Curious about why if you want to share. Thanks!
Details on course: https://kevinhogan.com/charismatic-communication-video/
Registration for course: Charismatic Communicator registration page