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A. Internet Business. No risk. And your reward comes as quickly as you want it to.
A. Ha! The question I ask everyone else….When I was on a tour in Australia, the guide stopped in an open field, gave the 10 of us a chance to buy a real boomerang made by an Aboriginee. He demonstrated how to throw and then how to make it return. I was first and wanted to impress of course. I threw just like he did and the thing flew fifty yards or more and returned. I jumped and caught it as the guide was saying, “Don’t catch it mate!” I wasn’t smart enough to know you could really hurt yourself by doing that. I don’t think I ever threw it that well after that.
A. Books on Influence, Selling, Hypnosis, Money. I’ll look at a lot of stuff.
A. Because teleseminars done the way I do them are physically and emotionally draining, I’m only going to do a few teleseminars. People who go and do all these teleseminars tend to get repetitive. I’m not really worried about getting repetitive, but I don’t want ME being repetitive.
Q. I didn’t completely understand your article. I am not a Homer Simpson but I’m not a Brad Pitt either. Are you saying that if I earn more money I will be able to get the same women as Brad Pitt? How can that be possible?
A. Not Brad Pitt, …but yes, as the research clearly showed, money buys beauty. No question about it. (Or you could say beauty buys money.)
A. We’re making a lot of money. It’s wild. We are holding AAUK, CVX, MSF, LZOEX. I’ve got an extra share of AAUK and CVX. If gold were to fall below 650, I’d sell all the AAUK. There’s no reason to be foolish after the money we’ve pocketed this year. I’ll keep CVX forever maybe. MSF/LZOEX we keep until we see the dollar strengthen.
A. I live in Minnesota which borders on Canada. Those evil Canadians….I’m pro anyone who is willing to work, and I’m 10X pro anyone who is willing to work hard for modest wages. (That’s what builds a country.) It’s a win/win. But no, if people are going to come and mooch as much as Americans mooch off the government (the taxes of people who work, there’s no point.)
A. If I understand the question you are asking me if you being good looking will make up for your lack of income. The answer is, you better be REALLY TALL and good looking.
Q. I want to be JUST me, yet at the same time I want to make sure that I GET the girl I really like. Using persuasion tactics just seems to reinforce that I don’t think I am good enough as I am, unless they are a natural consequence of what I feel for her e.g. a compliment. What shall I do and what program(s) shall I buy? Thanks!
A. Being you is choosing precisely what that means. I look in the mirror intellectually and I don’t like the fact that my grammar is horrendous. I don’t like the fact that I weigh too much. Those things that you can change you change. Those things you can’t you don’t. But mostly you should improve in your strong areas. If you 100% like your personality, and so do others, then don’t change. I had to because even though I liked mine, there were a few things…
PERSUASION makes the FIRST sale. YOU make all the rest. In other words, persuasion is the magic that gets them to say “yes,” and THEN it’s all up to YOU. That “YOU” needs to be a good person. Lifestorms and Manifesting the Millionaire Mind will help you be and create YOU as a person.
A. I’ve got to tell everyone that you are from New Zealand. If you were female I would….well anyway, no, I’m considered by most English teachers to have poor grammar and sentence structure….and I’m thinking I’ll never make it in life…because of that.
Q. I feel like my political party left me. What ever happened to fiscal sanity and smaller government as examples. I believe that the last time significant numbers of Republican voters felt a new way was necessary we had Ross Perot with the result that the Republicans split their votes and Bill Clinton for two terms as the result. I really think that is underestimated as a key for Bill Clinton’s success in getting elected. Is a Libertarian vote really just a “none of the above” vote? OR do you hold your nose and vote the least offensive candidate(s).
A. Hey Wayne (Root) are we friends? Wayne and I had a bit of a spat. He’s the Presidential Nominee (or will be) for the Libertarian Party. Wayne has an ego the size of Texas but he gets life and business and what is necessary for a country to work. If they put him in, yes, I’ll vote for him over any of the rest. I’m looking closely at Guliani and frankly Obama. This election year will not be a party ticket year for me by any means. As far as Root and my Libertarian friends, if they get their collective …stuff….together, and hire expert help at image management (hello?), amazing things could happen…
Q. I have become involved with the organization, INA.net, the newly reformed Amway, not really sure if you are familiar, but feel you are. I admire your advice and want to know what you think of Robert Kiyosaki’s Cash Flow system, the Quixtar organization and the INA.net network of individual business owners.
A. Yes I am familiar with them. I’m not a big Network Marketing guy. I like PrePaid Legal and Primerica. I’m not a big Amway fan. Frankly Amway is not an easy way to make it starting from square one. That said, I hope YOU do very well. (Amway has some awesome products.)
Q. (Part Two) I have been in the e quad (1/3) and s (2/3) quad most of my life and with over 40 years of working I have nothing to show for it and without any job and or business presently. I have an idea that could develop and become successful, using your see, believe, begin, continue and finish. I have done this before, you mention the “idea” people, yes I guess I am one of those, but life happens and it did many times, the reason why a few of my businesses did not finish. But to tell you the truth, when do you actually determine when the finish ends? When you feel it does or able to re-invest what you have made, re-duplication, and then investing in luxuries as stated by Kiyosaki?
A. Yeah, the thing is that idea people end up painting and selling the paintings for ten bucks on the corner. The difference between idea people and successful people is COMPLETION. Execution. Making it happen. Being ON A PROJECT UNTIL IT IS DONE. Steal my personal motto: “I get stuff DONE.”
Q. (Part Three) Possibly you could give me some of your mindfulness on this subject. I would truly appreciate any direction here, I have been a steadfast student of business and the philosophy’s of many, (Vitale,Pavlina, Zigler as 3) too numerous to leave here, but I think you get my point.
A. Well those three people have very different philosophies. I suggest you find one philosopher and make your stake there. Jesus said, no man can serve two masters. And I think it’s fair to say that you want to align yourself with ONE well reasoned philosophy. Don’t stop learning from the others, and DO always question what you believe. Your beliefs should be tweaked until they stand up to Katrina.
Q. I have a couple living very far one from the other, that: They phone each other at the same time, without knowing: morning, afternoon or evening. They have same feelings. Tenderness, fear, love. Without asking they know the taste of the other. They don’t know how to speak the language of the other, they say similar words and accept the errors of the other while talking in english. When the man is far way from the woman and is very tired, and has pain, the woman starts having headache, nearly fever, all her bones are aching so she goes to the hospital and they make her different blood and urine analysis, and she just has nothing! Now when the man is sleeping far from her, the woman feels well, (when he sleeps) or when both sleep at the same time, even if they get up, at a different time, they not always feel right, because one has not rested enough, independently of the other. The worse is when he works, the woman notices his pain and gets tired, then she goes home. She gets bad physically when he works, because she can’t support the pain of the man. Can this couple be supporting the pain of each other? (Both of them have pain). Can the pain of both be eliminated by the other? How could this be done? I know that there are people who can heal in the distance. But have you got to be qulified to do it? What is the thing they could do? When this couple are together they believe that life is a heaven because the pain is off.
A. There is no one that has the “power” to heal anyone else “at a distance.” That’s an old wives tale that isn’t true. So please, spare yourself the emotional pain and realize that doesn’t happen. I hope they can be together as much as you’d like to see them together.
Q. From the last part of the Science of Influence series…Women respond favorably to the 5dollar certificate, and men to the 50cents. Were there any studies on what happens if you give them bad news and the men get 50cents and the women (in the same room) get 5dollars? Like what if they are together and you offer two different things?
A. Nope. But that’s an interesting proposition.
Q. I work in a very male dominated industry I have done for 19 years. I have found NLP and persuasion techniques very help full in the past. Not for anything major but enough to help me overcome peoples initial surprise/prejudice at seeing 5 ft woman where they expect a 6 ft burly man. I am doing well I have risen through the ranks and am close to being at the top if my profession. The bit I need help with is, I was introduced to someone at a local work related bar and I am sure the guy hypnotised me without my consent as a demonstration for his friend. We were chatting and every now and them he would quickly and lightly touch either my hand or my temple and then he started talking about people making eye contact. He asked me lots of questions and when one made me hesitate he would backtrack and give a valid reason for asking the question. He asked my age and when i frowned before I answered he said that hes a year younger and wanted to know what its like to be my age. Obviously he cant have known my age until he asked so that’s a made up reason. I had, had a couple of drinks but I am pretty sure he hypnotised me. I am a bit annoyed about that. He works in a related industry to me and I am likely to see him again I would really like to do the same thing back to him especially if he tries it again.(I’m betting he will) are there any techniques for turning an induction back on someone and making him do something harmless like buy me drinks all night?
A. Your friend combined hypnosis, persuasion, simple NLP and a few drinks into what seems like a pretty fun and harmless evening. Time for you to do some studying!