This part of the process has the potential to fuel your
efforts, or stall them completely.
Coffee with Kevin Hogan gets done by Sunday night.
Period.
There is no, "golly what if it doesn't?"
"...what if I fail..."
"...what if I do a bad job...."
Coffee with Kevin Hogan averages 16 hours of my time per week.
A week like this week where there is a new promotion that is
extremely important for readers, it can take 30 hours per week on
top of a 40 or 50-hour week.
Twice or three times each year, Coffee won't actually get out
til Tuesday morning. A couple times each year, it won't get done in a
specific week.
That does happen and I don't like it, but I don't freak out about it.
On one hand, setting a deadline can be incredibly motivating.
It can urge you to stay focused, push yourself to work harder
and smarter, and be proactive in overcoming obstacles.
On the other hand, a deadline can cause immense impatience and
frustration if things don't move along at the pace you expect.
Read the last word in the sentence above again: EXPECT.
The Effect of Expectations
Our expectations get us into trouble more often than we'd like
to admit. If we expect something to go well and it doesn't, we
feel angry and disappointed. If we expect results by a certain
date and it doesn't happen due to circumstances beyond our
control, we can lose all hope and give up because it seems
futile to continue. I'm sure you've experienced situations like
these before - most of us have.
While it's favorable to set a GENERAL TIMELINE for completion
of your goal, you would be wise to DETACH EMOTIONALLY from any
firm expectations, especially as they relate to OTHER PEOPLE.
What do I mean by "detach emotionally"? I mean don't get
hooked on the idea of certain things happening at a certain time
- especially if those "things" are largely out of your control.
Set a timeline for completion of each of your ACTION STEPS, rather
than the results you see from your action steps.
Also, be sure not to set unrealistic timelines. Don't create
more stress for yourself by taking on a massive project and
expecting to complete it within a few days. Moderate,
consistent actions will be more effective than getting burned out.
And most people WILL and DO burn out.
All that said, once you set a timeline, do what you can to stick
to it.
If someone invites you to dinner...NO.
If someone asks you to go to a movie...NO
If someone says they need to talk about ....NO.
It was either something important enough to DO or NOT.
Your conscious mind is SMART.
Your nonconscious mind is POWERFUL.
POWERFUL will always beat SMART at the end of the day.
Say NO, early in the day so you can get stuff done at the end of the day.
This is a really elementary action that you won't have to do six months
from now, but DO THIS FOR NOW....